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Anal Sex
Anal sex is not something that is experienced exclusively by gay men;
it is a facet of our collective sexual identity which has been
explored by previous cultures and continues to be explored today.
Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative
to everyday lovemaking. Its not for everyone, but anal sex may be
what you´re looking for if you want to try something completely
different.
Why do people enjoy anal sex?
Anal sex is enjoyable because of the rich body of nerve endings in the
anus. While people often experience pain when first attempting anal
sex, as a person learns to relax, the pain often subsides into
pleasure. For men, anal sex also offers stimulation to the prostate,
an organ that provides the rush of pleasure during orgasm. Anal sex
for many seems like a taboo activity, and much of society still
shuns it. But statistics show that roughly 35% of heterosexuals and
50% of the gay community practice anal sex at least occasionally.
How can I make anal sex safer?
Anal sex can be a perfectly safe activity as long as you take the
necessary precautions. You should remember that your anus and rectum
do not have their own natural lubrication nor the kind of elasticity
the mouth and vagina enjoy. That is why anal sex must be practiced
with care. There are three things that should always be used
whenever anal penetration is taking place; lubrication, condoms and
common sense. Liberal amounts of lubrication are necessary because
the rectal wall can be quite sticky and is subject to tearing and
lesions if not kept lubricated. In addition, the anus and rectum are
narrow, so lubrication is needed to press inside smoothly. Condoms
are another necessity. Enemas, douches and other cleaners will not
be able to get all the germs and bacteria out of the rectum. Not
only is anal sex facilitate the transmission of STDs better than any
other form of sex, it can also cause urinary tract infections and
other bacterial diseases. Latex protection is essential, and can
offer additional slickness. Finally, use your common sense. The
rectal wall curves and is thin so long, hard objects can tear your
insides. Don't wear any jewelry on your hands, and cut your
fingernails if you are going to put your finger in someone's anus.
Most importantly, respect your body. Don't push the limits and go
only as far as you feel comfortable.
How can I enjoy anal sex?Tips for beginners
To prepare yourself for anal sex, the first thing to do is learn to
relax. This may include a hot bath beforehand, an erotic massage or
even just a good workout. Remember that the sphincter muscles around
the anus will not allow things to pass through easily unless you
relax and take it slow. Do not start with something the size of a
dildo or penis. Your sphincter may be reluctant enough to start with
your partner's finger. One partner should lubricate or place a
lubricated condom over his or her finger. Take the finger and arouse
the surface of the anus, perhaps making small circular motions as
you go. Always pay attention to your partner to indicate whether or
not he or she feels comfortable. Slowly attempt to push your finger
slightly inside the anus. Do not force your hand - stop if your
partner complains of discomfort. If it is difficult to enter the
anus, you probably need more lubrication. The first time you try
this, the receiver may feel a bit of pain. Anal sex is not for
everyone, and if you feel uncomfortable stop and perhaps try again
later. Think of this process as training for later anal encounters.
Even a finger can provide intense stimulation when it is inserted in
the anus.
Once you have tried penetration with a finger a number of times then
you can move towards something that is a bit larger. First you have
to decide on what type of anal stimulation that you enjoy. Do you
enjoy the movement of a finger, and the feeling of entry and
withdrawal? If this is the case then you may wish to proceed by
being penetrated with your partner's penis or by using an anal toy.
For those who enjoy the feeling of penetration more than motion or
vibration, try butt plugs which are designed specifically for this
purpose. A butt plug sits inside the anus, and is not generally used
for thrusting back and forth.
Positions to try
The best positions for anal sex depend largely on what stage you and
your partner are at in your experiences. Rear entry or the "doggie
style" position is the one position most people associate with anal
sex. However, rear entry allows a penis or anal toy to penetrate
most deeply, and may not be the best choice for the beginner. A good
starting position is the "spoons" position, with each partner laying
on his or her side, one behind the other. This prevents the
penetrating partner from going too fast, and allows complete control
over penetration. It also brings you closer to your partner, making
it easier to judge his or her reactions to what you´re doing.
Another position for anal sex is a variation of the missionary
position. The receiving partner lays on his or her back while the
penetrating partner approaches from on top. The penetrating partner
lifts up the calves or shins of the receiver, exposing the anus.
This can be an especially intimate position, with both partners
facing each other. The ‘top´ partner can masturbate the other and is
open to massage and cuddling as well.
Finally, rear entry offers another possibility for anal penetration.
This position allows the penetration to be the deepest, and permits
the receiver to better open the anus for entry. Rear entry doesn´t
offer the kind of intimacy or ease of communication that the other
positions do, but for more advanced lovers, can offer the greatest
amount of thrusting and penetration.
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